Thursday, July 1, 2010

The Secret to Getting What you Want from Men

So the other day I flew back home from California.  Thankfully, my airplane neighbor was a very sweet 40'ish never-been-married woman.  (Be prepared for sweeping generalizations coming up)

As we are all getting off the plane.  She reaches to the overhead compartment in front of her to get her bag down.  It's this giant metal, heavy looking thing.  A TOTALLY HOT, 28'ish  guy sees how heavy it looks and says, "Oh hey, let me help you with that."

Guess what she says?  Take a wild guess?  ........

She looks at him as if saying, "you asshole," but actually says in an exasperated voice, "I've GOT it."   Gee.  Wonder why she's never been married?  Duh.

Here's the truth; men like me.  They've always liked me.  (Okay, no cute boys ever liked me before the age of 17, but AFTER that they liked me).   Trust me it has nothing to do with looks and it's not because I'm cute.  Plenty of cute girls don't have guys liking them.  So what is it?  It's because even if the guy offering to take down my suitcase, open the door, let me go first, etc. wasn't cute, it would NEVER occur to me to say anything other than, "thank you!" with a great big, sincere smile!

Come'on ladies!  I'm trying to train my 6 year old son to be a gentleman, and it's not easy!  :)  I am working HARD to train that little guy to hold the door open for the ladies.  It's a lot of work to get him to set the table and be courteous to others.  Don't undermine a mother's good training by getting pissy when a man wants to be a gentleman.  Be graceful.  Be thankful.  And treat him like the hero he is.

And when ANY man offers to do something manly and thoughtful for you.....look them in the eye, give a great big smile (use the You're My Hero kind of smile), and say, "Oh, thank you!"  You'll make his day.  

****And if you are married, when is the last time you looked at your husband with hero worship and genuinely thanked him for doing something?  Doing this one little thing is my secret weapon on how I train my hubby to do what I want!  Shhhhhhh!  And trust me.....it will work for you too****

Do you have a technique that works really well too?  Please share it below.